Teary eyed at the movies

Subject: Teary eyed at the movies Sun Jun 24, 2007 9:57 am

Guys are not allowed to cry at the movies. It breaks all of the well established social rules. Even getting teary eyed will bring strange looks from both friends and strangers. It is so taboo for the man to emotionally connect. Women have the better of it where they are allowed to be more human. This modern world forces men to be less human so as to be more manly. An imperative I see imposed by both man and woman alike. A (lesser, I suppose) crime against humanity to make men less human. Comments welcome.

Number of posts : 137 Age : 47 Registration date : 2007-05-12

Well you asked for comments and yoru right. Men can at times seem to be so pushed to not revealing their emotions then women wonder why they can never tell what is wrong with their man.

IMHO a man crying to me sends out waves intially and I'm embarrassed to say, because I assume the very worst that someone has died. My husband cries and I LOVE it...(not in a sadistic mwah haha) way but to see him so in touch and open and unashamed to cry infront of me is amazing. It means we reached a new level of our relationship. So he will cry to some songs and theres one in particular that brings tears to his eyes EVERYTIME guaranteed and I love to play it because then he comes to me and gets all cuddly and cute. I love a man whom is not afraid to let it out. Now it is still a balance though unfortunaltey I feel I impose restrictions i dont want a man whom cries during tissue commercials but one whom will when the need is there such as a sad movie or he talks of missing his family.

If I was talking in general about a movie amongst a group of people and it was a tear jerker any man whom came out and said he cried I would have more respect for, admitedly most men wouldnt feel that way and some women but I think the tides are slowly slowly turning and society realises its unrealsitic to expect Men to be unemotional yet a lover and passionate person without the ability to express and get in touch with their emotions. If a man cant ever feel how on earth can he ever be passionate

Dont let others misconceptions stop you from letting out your steam valve and getting into a good movie or emotion. Dont let others stunt your experiences.

Subject: Re: Teary eyed at the movies Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:35 pm

Well, I can honestly say I have never cried during a tissue commercial. You hit the nail square on the head. Everything is about balance...

Subject: Re: Teary eyed at the movies Mon Jun 25, 2007 11:41 pm

I actually have to roll my eyes at how society stereotypes men and women. Like "men aren't supposed to cry"... or "women aren't supposed to be strong, that's what men are for"... I'm sure a lot of people disagree with those labels that are put on all of us - I do.

In my opinion, a man who isn't afraid to show his emotional side is stronger than one who thinks it's not ok to do so or thinks he has to keep his emotions hidden.

I've learned that emotions are beautiful things that most of us get to experience... yes, some are painful (not fun at all, lol), but being able to actually feel something that isn't physical, is just amazing. Myself, for example, lately I've been very emotional - something I never seemed to be when I was growing up, I did have bouts of emotions, yes, but now I just.. well.. I'm touched more deeply by a lot of things that never seemed to touch me before.

So, a man who is in touch with his feelings and isn't afraid to shed (or share) a tear every now and then, I can feel more connected to. And as Flight said, they have our utmost respect

Warm hugs,

-Skyye

Subject: Re: Teary eyed at the movies Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:52 am

Three words I have hated for most of my 47 years on planet Terra: Be a man. Words always uttered in response to a time where I failed to meet society's standards of ruggedness and compartmentalization of emotion. It will never make the Morning News, but I think the world has gone terribly wrong in ignoring this aspect of the male-female dynamic, and the results are plainly out there Crying or Very sad

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